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Featured in The Zoe Report: Can Therapy Make Things Worse?

Excerpt from Can Therapy Make Things Worse? Therapists Sound Off On How To Know You’re Being Steered In The Wrong Direction by Ashley Tibbets on September 16, 2019. See the full article here.

"Whether you're considering — or currently practicing — therapy to tackle issues including anxiety, relationship struggles (with or without your partner in tow), trauma, sex, or whatever seems to be causing some emotional stress, you might actually be doing more harm than good if you're not paired up with someone both qualified to help with your specific needs and with whom you have a relatively comfortable rapport..."

"Beginning a therapy relationship, like any other relationship, can be awkward at first," shares Lily Ewing, a Seattle-based therapist. "First sessions can feel big for clients and counselors because everyone there is testing the waters. This is a lot happening in 50 minutes. So come back at least one more time, just to get a better read on things after a few days. If by the third session, it’s just not a match, you have every right to call it off."

"That said, what can you do once you've realized you're not benefitting from your therapist? Do you quit cold turkey? Or is there a conversation to be had that can potentially turn things around? According to Insko, don't be afraid to have that discussion if you think perhaps the two of you might simply be miscommunicating. "I tell clients up front to please let me know when the process isn't as helpful as they thought it'd be," she explains. "The therapeutic relationship should be a safe enough space for honest feedback. The therap

ist can take it, and if they can't, that's a sign that they're not the right fit for you. Ideally, they'll work with you to understand what's not feeling right about the process, and brainstorm new things to try to get it back on track."

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I am currently available to see clients located in Washington state. Currently, all sessions are being held over video call. At this time, I do not have a clear timeline of when in-person sessions will be offered. As it becomes safe and appropriate to return to face-to-face work, I will update information here. Video sessions will always be an option moving forward, even when in-office work resumes. In the future, in-person sessions will be held at a new office space in Seattle. Location is not specifically determined at this time, but it will likely be in Belltown, Queen Anne, or the general vicinity of Downtown Seattle. 


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